1. Knowing my worth
I have FINALLY learned what it is like to love yourself and the meaning behind “you have to love yourself before anyone else will.” It isn’t someone’s job to tell you how precious you are to this world. Like OF COURSE, I love to hear it from other people and you should always tell people what they mean to you… but you have to know it yourself to accept who you are as a person.
2. With that, loving yourself makes it harder for you to allow people to treat you ways you shouldn’t be treated.
The older I get, the less I want to allow people in my life who aren’t there to benefit me or my future. Your circle gets smaller and dates are harder to come by, but it’s so worth it.
3. There is no such thing as the total package.
Sure, there is going to be someone who is going to be everything you ever wanted, but they are going to come with flaws. You have to decide which flaws you’re willing to love and accept, as well as find someone who is going to love and accept your flaws.
4. Expectations will ruin your potential future.
This is one I am still working on. I always have certain expectations in my head for how things are going to work out and 100% of the time I am always wrong. So, if you learn to stop setting expectations and just allow God to carry out His plan, it will always benefit you and you’ll never leave disappointed.
5. Trying to change someone to make them “the One” will only waste time.
The “one” is out there! It shouldn’t be difficult. There will be difficult times of course, but it will never work out with people who just are the way they are. Some personality traits are just them; you can’t change that.
6. Age does not measure maturity.
The older you get, the more you will recognize this.
7. Exercise is good for your mental health just as much as your physical health.
Freshman-sophomore year I refused to work out. I was finally out of athletics and didn’t have anyone forcing me to go run three miles, but now it’s so nice to go for a little jog to clear your head. The better you look… the better you feel.
8. Accept compliments.
A compliment are sweet words freely given from another person; if you continue to fight with people and deny compliments they will slowly stop coming. This goes along with loving yourself. Someone likes something about you, accept it, and always remember it!
9. A positive mind truly creates a positive life.
“Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyer is such a good book!!! Worth the purchase. My mentor, Rick Haasl, let me steal it from him and it has truly changed my life. It teaches you to free yourself from the negative thoughts you constantly battle with.
10. Along with that, surrounding yourself with positive people will create a positive life.
You’re only as good as the people you choose to surround yourself with.
11. Confidence is attractive.
Everyone has insecurities, but don’t let them affect your life or relationships with others. Work on them! Write down some of your strengths and THRIVE. While confidence is attractive, arrogance is not.
12. There’s a solution to every problem.
There really is! It may not be a solution that fixes the problem in a day or even a year, but there’s a solution. I always hate getting advice that is honest that I don’t truly want to hear, but they always end up being right.
13. Being happy is a choice.
Everyone has their days. I have days where I go into depression and think my life is miserable, but it’s not. It’s my choice to choose the way that I think. And some people really do battle depression on a daily basis, but when you start realizing what is so wonderful in life and the things that you have been blessed with, you can start to change that. Find things that make you happy and hold onto those things.
14. Don’t bottle things up.
Talking about your problems with someone you love or trust really does help. I learned this through my parents divorce, through breakups, or even just little problems. Talk about it! It makes you feel so much better.
15. Bad things happen to good people.
It’s life. Bad things happen to bad people too. But don’t dwell on the bad things, celebrate the good!
16. When people say negative things to you, it’s them projecting their insecurities onto you.
Don’t let it get to you.
17. Listening to Jesus tunes makes me feel better 100% of the time.
Sometimes I am not in the mood to just focus a read my bible or have quiet time, but going for a drive with KLOVE on, or just listening to some Christian music before going to bed always makes me feel better.
18. Find something you love to do and do it.
For me, I love blogging, journaling, making lists, and just planning my week out. I love playing with my dog, and hanging out with friends, being in the sun, and going on for runs. Do things that make you happy.
19. Honesty without tact is cruelty.
I watched a video of Kristen Bell saying all the things her therapist has told her and that was one things he said to her. Be mindful of others.
20. “Happy girls are pretty girls.” -Audrey Hepburn
They truly are. People who are happy and have a freeing spirit about themselves are people you want to surround yourself with and also become. People radiate towards people who are positive. Watch what you say to others. Be nice to people for no reason. Do things for other people for no reason. People always say “don’t cross oceans for those who wouldn’t jump a puddle for you,” but I say do it.
21. Let go of control.
It’s all in God’s plan.
22. Don’t relive and continue to to rethink past negative experiences.
This goes with “positive mind, positive life.” If you continue to dwell on the negatives, you’ll never appreciate the positives.
23. The grass is always greener.
Accept it and turn envy into action.
24. Stop letting the bad spoil the good.
That goes without saying.
There are so many other things I have learned the hard way, but realizing these in my life have really made a positive impact on my life. Everyone needs a little help sometimes, and I feel like I need it more than others sometimes, but I hope these help.